The Psychological Grip That Keeps You Stuck He keeps showing you he is not healthy. Intellectually, you know you need to break up with him. However, on a deep emotional level, you cannot seem to follow through on it. You get the courage to do it, and begin to walk away, but then something happens… You start to feel the crushing pain of abandonment and deep loneliness, unlike anything you have ever experienced—and it surprises you how unsettled it feels. It feels like starving for connection, gasping for air.  Suddenly, life starts to feel and look different, and you become unable to function.  You struggle to understand your inner experience, and why do the simplest daily tasks feel like an overwhelming challenge? You’re in withdrawal from the trauma bond… but you don’t know this yet You don’t understand yourself. You wanted this. You were so sure three days ago when he hurt you again. But