“I wanted to be chosen so badly, I never stopped to wonder if they were worth choosing.” – Unknown The desire to be chosen comes from a strong need to feel like you matter to someone, especially when early experiences with caregivers leave lasting emotional marks. A silent, unconscious undercurrent in my life has been a desperate longing to feel that I mattered in someone else’s eyes. I now know this is a result of the programming I experienced in childhood. This deep wound comes from my struggle to connect emotionally with my parents. They were physically present but emotionally distant, preoccupied with their own problems, and unable to provide nurturing and support. Growing up, I often felt invisible due to my caregivers’ emotional unavailability. My father was consumed by alcoholism and other addictions, while my mother, deeply affected by his behavior, channeled all her energy into trying to control him. When her efforts failed,